WEDDINGS OF INDIA – BENGALI WEDDING
INDIAN WEDDING – BENGALI WEDDING
A Bengali wedding includes many rituals and ceremonies that can span several days. Bengali weddings are traditionally in four parts – the bride’s ‘gaye holud’, the groom’s ‘gaye holud’, the wedding ceremony and the reception. These often take place on separate days. The first event in a wedding is an informal one – the groom presents the bride with a ring marking the “engagement” or “Sagai Rasma” which is gaining popularity. This can sometimes be considered as Ashirwaad. A traditional wedding is arranged by Ghotoks (matchmakers), who are generally friends or relatives of the couple. The matchmakers facilitate the introduction and also help agree the amount of any settlement.
A Bengali Hindu Marriage can be divided into the following Category -Pre-wedding Rituals like, Adan Pradan, Patri Patra, Ashirvad, Aai Budo Bhaat, Vridhi, Dodhi Mangal, Holud Kota, Adhibas Tatva, Kubi Patta, Snan, Saankha Porano. Saat Paak, Mala Badal, Subho Drishti, Sampradan, Yagna, Saat Pak ‘couple’, Anjali, Sindur Daan and Ghomta. Post-Wedding Rituals like Bashar Ghar, Bashi Biye, Bidaye, Bou Boron, Kaal Ratri, Bou Bhaat, Phool Sajja, Dwira Gaman. The turmeric ceremonies or gaye holud “gaee holud”, applying Haldi paste to the bride, also takes place before the wedding ceremony. For a Bengali Hindu wedding, a priest asks the couple to chant mantras from the holy texts that formalises the following- Kanya sampradaan or konnasomprodan (Kanya Daan Rasma) the ceremonial giving away of the bride by the father of the brideSaat Paake – Ghora Bengali (couple take 7 rounds of Fire).
The reception is also known as the bou bhat “bride feast” or walima. In the flower bed ceremony or ful shojja or “flower bed”, the bride wears a lot of floral ornaments and their marriage bed is decorated with flowers by the groom’s family. This is the night of consummation.